Teens and young adults
4-Day Intensive Program
in La Conner, WA
This program gives your young adult an opportunity to disengage from the daily workings of life, step back, and look at a bigger picture. He/she will spend 4 days one-on-one with me. This is a is a learning and development retreat to give him/her a solid grasp of what I teach that has the potential to change everything about his/her life.
How it works:
During four days in the small and scenic town of La Conner, Washington, we will have one-on-one meetings twice each day. The sessions average 1½-2 hours each. There will be breaks in between sessions for reflection and review of supporting materials. The meetings consist of discussion and directive learning that is specifically oriented to your young adult's life and current situation.
Phone follow-up is included in the program and helps keep the learning alive after he/she returns home. This program is offered year-round, seven days a week.
To learn more about this program or for availability, contact me. If you're not sure if this is the program for your young adult, I'm happy to help you think things through, no charge, and no pressure.
Phone- or Video-Coaching
A package of calls includes 4 one-hour video or phone calls that take place weekly or every other week (or as needed). Each call is a private one-on-one session and is customized to address your young adults' specific issues or concerns. While a huge amount can be gained from a package of 4 calls, often more than one package is needed.
How it works:
The coaching calls will give your young adult a neutral and judgment-free space to get some distance and perspective, reflect and consider options, and see things with a fresh set of eyes as their mind settles and they get more calm and clarity. Through our conversations, I'll help them learn to find that space more easily for themselves when they hit future challenges so that they’ll become more graceful and resilient.
While it’s my job to help young adults navigate what’s in front of them, ultimately my job is to teach my clients to fish rather than giving them fish. So learning is at the core of all my work and what accounts for the staying-power of my client results.
Any teen can get a fresh start.
I started working with teens and young adults when my leadership coaching clients wanted their kids to go through a similar program. I discovered that the leaders and couples I worked with were only slightly more evolved than the average young adult. Adults just had the maturity to work around it in their lives so it wasn’t as disruptive.
Parents started asking me, “Can you help my kid get ahead of the curve?” “Can you help them now, so they handle their teen years better, but also give them an advantage as adults?”
My answer was easy: “Absolutely.”
In my 20 years experience, I’ve found that all young adults are capable of finding their own stability and composure. And once they do, they take it with them into the future.
What most young adults need
Here are some common problems that, when understood better, become much easier for young adults to handle:
Trouble focusing and following through
Dealing with social conflict
Handling the bigger emotions like anger, insecurity or frustration
Staying out of overwhelm
Worrying or thinking things to death
Feeling like an outsider
Questioning themselves or their futures
In my programs, young adults find a new freedom from derailing thoughts, feelings and behaviors. They walk away with a stronger connection to their own common sense, confidence and an ability to handle their day-to-day pressures. They end up more comfortable in their own skin, get less caught up in their own thoughts, and have more clarity about their future.
The only difference between young adults and adults is that a young adult’s feelings are more raw, and louder. It’s as if their emotions are hooked to a megaphone. Their chemistry is so out of whack that their mood changes are fast and furious. So naturally they’re not great at containing, hiding them, or riding them out gracefully. The volume is turned up too high and they’ve had less time to learn to stabilize than the rest of us.
So how receptive are young adults to these programs?
While it depends on how much a young adult WANTS help, overall young adults have a remarkable advantage over most adults: they learn very quickly. They’re sharp, intuitive, and are more open and receptive to seeing a new way of looking at life. Unlike adults, they haven’t bought into a collection of theories about how life works.
What results can I expect?
The result is that they’re sharper, they drop old ideas and habits faster, and they know truth when they see it. They’re just not compelled to analyze, argue, or be skeptical so the travel time is faster when it comes to starting fresh. So I find that on average, young adults walk away from my programs with better impact than adults.
Young adults who understand life better, at an earlier age, are less self-destructive and have more of the things we want for them -- the clarity to look ahead, think for themselves, find their own common sense. They’re more willing to take chances, find their resilience and recover from setbacks faster. Ultimately that results in a stronger, happier, and more independent young person.