Relationships

Phone- or Video-Coaching Calls

Packages include four 1-hour video or phone calls that take place weekly or every other week. Each call is a private one-on-one session and is customized to address your specific issues or concerns.

 

How it works: 

The coaching calls will give you a neutral and judgment-free space to get some distance and perspective, reflect and consider options, and see things with a fresh set of eyes as your mind settles and gets more calm and clarity. Through the call series you’ll learn to find that space more easily for yourself when you hit future challenges so that you’ll become more graceful and resilient.

 

While it’s my job to help you navigate what’s in front of you, ultimately my job is to teach my clients to fish rather than giving them fish. So learning is at the core of all my work and what accounts for the staying-power of my client results.

Note: For maximum benefit, if both people in a relationship want coaching, I request that each person to sign up for his/her own coaching package. The coaching packages are customized to the learning style of each person, and everyone learns differently, so coaching calls with an extra person significantly compromises the impact and results of both people.

Any relationship can get a fresh start.

Some of the most common relationship questions I get are “Can my bad or broken relationship be saved?” and from the people in more stable relationships: “Can a flat relationship come alive again like it was in the beginning?"

 

Relationships take work. Lots of work. Yet maybe you don’t care because when it’s good, it’s so worth it. Even if the ‘good’ is fleeting or sporadic, it was there, but it left. Or it’s never been there but there’s hope is that it will turn into something good and worth it.

 

If you’re like everyone else, what makes you hang in there is the sense of connection, the feeling that someone really ‘gets you’ and appreciates you. That you have someone by your side when things get hard and nobody else is there. That you can be yourself with them, unguarded and unfiltered.

 

People invest so much of themselves in their relationship, sometimes a majority of themselves, yet the connection isn’t there. Something they don’t know how to control or influence. It’s frustrating and unsettling to have such a big thing be so elusive.
 

What 20 years experience working with couples has shown me

 

I’ve always loved working with couples because in certain ways, they’re all the same. And they all hold the same promise and potential. I say that because of a few key factors I’ve consistently seen in my 20 years’ experience working with couples that provide hope for all relationships:

 

  •  Connection is ALWAYS possible

You can have a strong connection in your relationship even if: 1. You had it but somehow lost it, 2. You had it but something happened (you had kids, an issue came up), or 3. You simply never had a connection.

 

  •  Compatibility: Not actually a big deal

Compatibility is not a ultimately a factor when it comes to connection. I see and talk to couples every day that are considered compatible yet on the brink of divorce, and couples that seem incompatible yet have a strong unconditional connection. There's something else at work that anyone can grasp.

 

  •  It only takes one person to spark a connection.

You can be in a relationship and be the only one looking for help. Or maybe you’re single and/or dating and wondering how to make sure that feeling of connection is part of your future. The part of relationships I find fascinating is that connecting to people has more to do with you than anyone else. What you’re looking for is within your means.

If you’re in a relationship that needs help, there are certain relationship fundamentals you can learn that will give you the hope and clarity to get a fresh start. That's my area of expertise. 

 

Even if you’re single, dating, in between relationships, or not sure if you’re currently with the right person, getting a solid understanding of what it takes to build a stable, connected, and fulfilling relationship is well within reach.

   Services

4-Day Immersion in La Conner, WA

This program gives you an opportunity to disengage from the daily workings of life, step back, and look at a bigger picture. You will spend 4 days one-on-one with me. This is a is a learning and development retreat to give you a solid grasp of what I teach that has the potential to change everything about your life.

 

How it works: 

During four days in the small and scenic town of La Conner, Washington, we will have one-on-one meetings twice each day. The sessions average 1½-2 hours each. There will be breaks in between sessions for reflection and review of supporting materials. The meetings consist of discussion and directive learning that is specifically oriented to your life and current situation.

 

Phone follow-up is included in the program and helps keep the learning alive after the you return home. This program is offered year-round, seven days a week. To learn more about this program or for availabliity, contact me.  If you're not sure if this is the program for you, I'm happy to help you think things through, no charge, and no pressure. 

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