Updated: Dec 8, 2020
If you have tweens or teens, your house just might be one of the more emotionally-charged and unpredictable homes on your block.
You might also feel like whatever connection you used to have with them is gone.
Maybe you catch glimpses of it, in fleeting moments when their softer or lighter side comes out. But that’s it.
Sometimes that’s the worst part of it all, worse than the fighting, the outrage, or overwhelm. The feeling that you lost them and might never get them back.
If that’s you, you are definitely not alone.
What parents often don’t see is that there’s a bigger picture.
And in that bigger picture, the extreme emotions and behavior and the relationship strain is not only a universal tween and teen thing, it’s a universal human thing.
We do all of those things when we lose our bearings too, only the volume and intensity is a little lower. I’ll bet we did one of those very things last week.
Fortunately, tweens and teens are not just small versions of adults. This is not how they’ll be when they’re older. Their chemistry will calm down and they’ll naturally develop more maturity, self-awareness, and overall will feel more stable and secure within themselves.
A majority of adults, myself included, had emotions like rage, hatred, depression, anxiety and insecurity in clinical, diagnose-able amounts.
Tweens and teens grow and change at a rate that's faster and more intense than any other phase in their lives besides infancy. All that chaos and instability wreaks havoc on their moods, emotions, and psychology.
So try not to panic.
For most parents, simply getting some insight into the emotion and behavior of this age group can bring enough perspective to calm everything down on your side of the equation. A little bit of understanding helps parents react and escalate much much less. And that can calm down the whole house.
In today’s video I bring some of that perspective and understanding to you.
I hope it helps.
To watch, click here or below.